Vaginismus can be an excruciatingly painful and traumatic medical condition where the vaginal muscles contract or tighten in anticipation of pain during penetrative sex.
This condition often makes penetrative sex agonizing and sometimes, impossible.
More oft, the patient cannot use a tampon or undergo any medical examination that involves vaginal penetration due to the burning sensation that they feel during insertion.
Vaginismus can cause so much distress in sexual lives and relationships, or result in child-bearing difficulties.
Due to its sensitiveness as a subject, most patients find it hard to talk about it; they’d rather endure the pains in silence.
If you suffer from Vaginismus, it’s not your fault. It is an involuntary muscle spasm that happens within the muscles of your vagina, and you have no control over it.
It’s not a life sentence too. There are lots of effective treatments and therapies that can help eliminate the condition.
However, the first step towards solving this medical challenge is to educate yourself properly to enable you to pursue viable remedies or treatments.
What Causes Vaginismus?
Experts believe that primary vaginismus is triggered by a fear of penetrative sex or some kind of anxiety towards penetrative sex.
It could also be caused by a previous experience with penetrative sex that was unpleasant or painful.
Secondary Vaginismus, on the other hand, occurs when a patient who has had comfortable penetrative sex without pains in the past develops an infection that makes penetrative sex painful for them.
The new painful sexual experience can trigger what is known as secondary Vaginismus.
Can Vaginismus Be Cured?
Vaginismus can be treated, but the treatment would depend on the triggers.
Treatments must be centered on identifying the cause of your anxiety and fear of penetration, then eliminating or managing them effectively.
If Vaginismus has been triggered by an infection, then the infection has to be treated first before addressing the accompanying pain and anxiety.
Which Therapies and Treatments Work to Cure Vaginismus?
There are a few treatments and therapies that bring quick positive results:
Do Pelvic Floor Exercises
The pelvis is that part of the body that houses the uterus, vagina, bladder, and bowel.
The floor of the pelvis houses all of the muscles that control these organs, thus learning how to do pelvic floor exercises that give you control over these muscles can help you eliminate vaginismus.
Kegel exercises are not only beneficial to women with vaginismus but to women in general (and men too!). Some of the benefits of Kegel exercises include improved pelvic health and overall fitness, reduced risk of pelvic organ prolapse, faster recovery after childbirth, and prevention and treatment for bladder leakage. For some men, Kegels can help treat erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation and improve sexual intimacy. Virtually anyone can benefit from incorporating Kegel exercises in their workout routine.
Pelvic floor exercises like Kegel help you learn how to control and relax your vagina muscles voluntarily.
You can easily do Kegel exercises anytime you want to urinate by trying to stop and then holding the flow of your urine for 2 to 10 seconds.
It’s crucial to target the right muscles – the vagina muscles – when doing kegel exercises so you might need the help of a Gynecologist or a qualified fitness instructor to help you do it the right way.
See a Sex Therapist
You need to understand your own body and what typically happens when you’re trying to engage in sexual intercourse. This is so you can control how your body responds to penetrative sex.
Sexual counselors and therapists often teach relaxation techniques that can help you relax and stop your vaginal muscles from contracting before you commence sexual intercourse.
They also teach you how to practice mindfulness so that you can stop reliving those past unpleasant sexual experiences that may be triggering Vaginismus, thus enabling you to live in the moment and enjoy sex.
Spend a Lot of Time on Foreplay
Conscientious foreplay allows your vaginal walls to dilate, and your vagina muscles to relax well before sex. With conscientious foreplay, your partner applies sexual self-control to enable you get all jizzed up and in the mood for explosive sex.
Dilation can make the difference between painful penetrative sex and pleasant sexual experience so always encourage your partner to take things slow and spend some good time on foreplay before he/she goes on to penetrate you.
Use Natural Vagina Dilators
There are many herbal products that you can use to promote dilation before sex.
.Thirty minutes before penetrative sex, try soaking yourself in a bathtub filled with warm water and a few drops of a herbal vagina bath bomb. They are made with essential oils and herbs like kaolin, rosemary oil, coconut oil, orange peel oil, shea butter, and orange peel oil.
These herbs aid vaginal walls muscle relaxation and promote dilation before sex so that penetration is more comfortable and less painful.
There’s nothing to be ashamed about; Vaginismus affects about 21% of women in the world today – that’s 1 in 5 women. You’re not alone.
You don’t have to pretend to enjoy sex to protect your relationship or your partner’s feelings. Let your partner understand what you’re experiencing and let them know how they can help. Without your partner’s cooperation, you may have a harder time getting rid of the condition.